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Divorce is on my mind. Aaron's marriage is on the rocks--his wife wants a man who makes more money. She's bitter and is going to be a nasty adversary. I doubt that she'll play fair.

What is a divorce to the children? Some people say "it's good for the children, it gets them out of a house where parents argue and the atmosphere is unhealthy. They survive."

Sure, they survive, but at what cost? It's an incredible wound. Each child somehow believes himself responsible. Children take sides without even knowing it. They become objects of manipulation. This was a marriage where there was a child who was il. Perhaps attention was diverted from the marriage to the child. Maybe. But in my opinion, it's something different. She isn't capable of really loving a man. She sees the material first, and is a user. She is not capable of deep love. The marriage wasn't a romance marriage. It was a money marriage.