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H & M weren't happy together.

At the end, H's only wish was to outlive M so that she couldn't distribute what little money H had left to HER family. She outlived him by 5 weeks and C and N got nothing--as I am sure you have already heard from C.

I do not understand why H failed to make proper arrangements -- he didn't plan for the event of M outliving him, and, from what C told me, M gave every last tea-cup and earring to her own family and left N and C nothing, not even a souvenir tweezer. Almost all of the jewelry, flatware, and china came from H's mother.They were his family's heirlooms--and most of the antique furniture too.

When I visited New York, Naples, and "Beverly Hills Adjacent," M spoke only in the highest, most respectful terms about H; but H had nothing but disdain and hatred for M. A disconnect that boggled my mind then, and still does.

I would tell H about M's loving and prideful descriptions of H to me, and H would tell me that she was a phony.

Perhaps M had some sort of voodoo hold over H. I can't figure it out. Not that I didn't fall under her sway also--I liked her and laughed all night with them on many occasions--but get H alone or on the phone and all I would hear was how terrible, horrible she was.

Until a year or two ago, I thought of H as a very strong, if somewhat angry/bitter man. He was funny--his humor was hostile, and a night with H was guaranteed to be a night of laughs...

I thought of H -- as he thought of himself -- as a "producer," the guy who takes care of all the details, and thinks of everything. He chose the restaurants. Only he could mix a proper martini. And half the time he ordered for everyone. He knew what needed to be known and knew what was needed.----

But why didn't he write a new will? Why didn't he start to give his things to N and C? I know he was mad a C--but I also know that he wasn't mad at Nicole, and loved her deeply.

Very strange...

What was H like at Michigan?

mike